The Renewal Times

February, 2004.
ISSN 1705-3773 The Renewal Times

The Renewal Times is a publication of Renewal Technologies and is edited by Roger Ellerton.

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• Thought for the day
  
• Health Notes
  
• Upcoming Seminars
  
• Feature Article
  
• Humour
  
• Feedback
  
• More Information
  

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Thought for the Day
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Procrastination is the thief of time.

         Edward Young

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Health Notes
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Exercise Your Brain

A recent study of older adults revealed that regularly filling free time with brainy tasks helped to slow age-related declines in mental ability. Any activity that strengthens problem-solving skills, such as working on puzzles or playing memory games, appears to do the trick.

Effects of cognitive training interventions with older adults: a randomized controlled trial. Ball, K., Berch, D. B., Helmers, K. F., Jobe, J. B., Leveck, M. D., Marsiske, M., Morris, J. N., Rebok, G. W., Smith, D. M., Tennstedt, S. L., Unverzagt, F. W., Willis, S. L., Journal of the American Medical Association 2002;288:2271-2281.

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Stress and Immune Response

Are you feeling stressed? If so, be sure to get back your inner calm before you schedule a vaccination.

In a study, people who believed their lives were especially stressful had the weakest response to a vaccine. Regularly practicing stress reduction strategies that make you feel calm, even if they don't make all of your troubles go away, may help your body to produce more illness-fighting antibodies.

Perceived stress and psychological well-being are associated with antibody status after meningitis C conjugate vaccination. Burns, V. E., Drayson, M., Ring, C., Carroll, D., Psychosomatic Medicine 2002;64:963-970.

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Feature Article
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Sensory Acuity

Are you consciously aware of what is going on around you or inside of you? Are you just going through the motions of living? Are you responding to the opportunities that are there -- if you just take a moment to choose to see, hear, feel or experience them? Are you listening to your own internal signals as to what you really want to do or are you doing what you think others expect or demand of you. And is it time for you to start paying attention NOW!

Sensory acuity (seeing, hearing, feeling (physically and emotionally), smelling and tasting) is a critical piece of NLP and your life. It is important for you to be aware of:

• Feedback/information that indicates the extent to which you are on or off target in achieving your outcomes.
• Other people’s actions and reactions to certain situations/stimuli.
• How you are reacting to certain situations/stimuli.

Achieving Your Outcomes

In my article, Five Steps for Success , I stressed the importance of having an outcome for whatever you do (the first step for success). The third step for success, after taking action, is to pay attention and have some form of measure to know whether or not you are making progress towards your outcome. What are the signs (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory or gustatory) that indicate if you are on course or perhaps off course and some corrective action is required. If you do not use your sensory acuity, you may end up way off course or spend more effort than required.

For example, have you ever encountered a sales person who has the sale in hand but doesn’t realize it and continues talking and eventually talks the person out of the sale? Or have you ever discovered after the fact that you did not pay attention to what was important to a loved one and ended up missing a great opportunity or having to bail yourself out of a jam? Or did you not pay attention to signs at work and were surprised by a reorganization or missed a potential opportunity during a reorganization? In my experience, I have always found an opportunity to advance my career during a reorganization -- if I pay attention to what is going on and take appropriate action.

Often we pay attention through our preferred representational system (Modalities and Representational Systems) and miss subtle (or even obvious) changes in the other representational systems, such as a change in a person’s tone of voice or skin colour, … that are critical for achieving our outcomes.

Observing Other People’s Actions and Reactions

If you are coaching another person, delivering training to a class, negotiating with another person, sharing an intimate moment with a loved one, …; it is important to understand how people experience the world around them (preferred representational system) in order to more clearly express your ideas so they can see, or hear or get in touch with your message. As well, you should be perceptive of changes in the other person’s physiology, tone of voice, energy that may indicate a change in their internal thoughts or emotional state. If so, you may need to stop what you are doing and do something different. And how often do we miss these signals and ‘continue doing what we have always done, only expecting different results this time’ - the definition of insanity!

When observing other people, you will want to notice:

• Words they use (predicates).
• Eye movements (eye accessing cues).
• Changes in skin colour/tone.
• Breathing.
• Voice quality.
• Posture/gestures.
• Changes in energy - many people with kinesthetic as a preferred representational system or who are visually impaired are very attuned to changes in energy. We all have the ability to do this. We just have not taken the time to practice the skill.
• Etc.

Pay Attention to Your Own Internal and External Signals

Some of the internal or physiological responses you could start paying attention to are:

• Holding your breath. Do you hold your breath when you are stressed? And when you hold your breath, your body does not get enough oxygen, which causes even more stress! When you notice you are holding your breath, take this as a signal to give yourself permission to breathe deeply at a relaxed pace.
• A tightening in your stomach or chest.
• A certain pain or twitch.
• A feeling of joy, love or accomplishment -- or are these feelings you tend to ignore?
• Internal representations (images/sounds/etc.) you create in your mind.

I believe it is very important for me to understand what is going on inside of me. For example: There are only two conversations in this world. The first is the one I have with myself and the second is the one that I have with you. If I do not feel good about myself or resourceful, this will be demonstrated in my conversation with you through my choice of words, my tone of voice, my body language, the energy coming from me, … . Even if you are not consciously aware of these signals coming from me, you will be at an unconscious level and react to them in some way.

Practice Your Sensory Acuity

This exercise is a two-person exercise - A and B. B’s job is to observe A. To simplify the discussion, let us assume A is a male and B a female.

1. A closes his eyes and thinks of someone he dislikes.
2. While A thinks about this person, A begins at the top of his head and slowly moves his attention down his own body noticing any physiological reaction to thinking about this person. For example: A may notice tension around his eyes, a pain in his shoulder or a heavy feeling in his stomach. As A is scanning his body, he tells B what he is observing.
3. Once A finishes describing what he has observed, B tells A what she has observed. For example, she may have observed A’s eyes closed tightly, a red flushing around his neck, very shallow breathing, twitching of a finger on his right hand, a change in his tone of voice or an energy pushing her away from A.
4. Once step 3 is completed, A stretches and/or looks around the room - this is called a break state and clears the mind of the internal representations of the person A dislikes.
5. A closes his eyes and repeats steps 2 and 3 while thinking of someone he likes.
6. Break state by stretching and/or looking out the window.
7. A may be surprised at the different internal reactions that he had between thinking of some he dislikes and someone he likes. He may also be surprised by the reactions that he was not aware of that B described to him. As a result of this exercise, A may discover that he really does telegraph his feelings/thoughts to others, even if it is at an unconscious level.
8. A chooses one of the two people he thought about earlier and does not tell B which person it is. He closes his eyes and thinks of this person.
9. From what she observed earlier, B tells A who A is thinking about. Almost like magic!

A Caution

For sensory acuity, we stick with what we have seen, heard, felt, tasted or smelled. We do not project an opinion or guess. For example: You may observe that my lips curl up at the ends in the form of smile (a fact). You may however tell me that I am happy (a guess, hallucination or mind read). The smile may be a result of the fact that I have a bad case of gas!

Mind reading can potentially get us into trouble. Consider someone who is angry versus someone who is very determined and focused in getting something done. The external cues may be quite similar. If we ask the person who is determined why they are angry, they may indeed get angry with us for making an erroneous judgment about them.

And NLP is Much more than that!

Author: Roger Ellerton is a certified NLP trainer, certified management consultant and the founder and managing partner of Renewal Technologies. He can be reached at Renewal Technologies www.renewal.ca or by e-mail info@renewal.ca

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Humour
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Doctors

At a medical convention, a male doctor and a female doctor start eyeing each other. The male doctor asks her to dinner and she accepts. As they sit down at the restaurant, she excuses herself to go and wash her hands.

After dinner, one thing leads to another and they end up in her hotel bedroom. Just as things get hot, the female doctor interrupts and says she has to go and wash her hands. Once she comes back they go for it. After the sex session, she gets up and says she is going to wash her hands.

As she comes back the male doctor says, "I bet you are a surgeon".

She confirms and asks how he knew.

"Easy, you're always washing your hands."

She then says, "I bet you're an anesthesiologist."

Male doctor: "Wow, how did you guess?"

Female doctor: "I didn't feel a thing."

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A man speaks frantically into the phone, "My wife is pregnant, and her contractions are only two minutes apart!"

"Is this her first child?" the doctor queries.

"No, you idiot!" the man shouts. "This is her husband!".

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Feedback
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